Wednesday, January 9, 2013


“Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” - Brene Brown, Daring Greatly

 In 2012, I finally got comfortable with asking for help.

 Ladies, we don't do this enough. We all need help--in numerous areas of our lives. We know people who want to help us. And yet so many of us continue to struggle--needlessly--on our own, simply because we do not ask.  Help comes in many forms: sometimes we just need a little information, a tip or trick or shortcut. Sometimes we need encouragement, or understanding. Sometimes what we really need is a good kick in the pants.

  You need help from your peers: Ask for it. We need the knowledge and encouragement that women walking our same road can offer. Call upon your friends in your neighborhood; call upon your blog friends. (Don’t have friends to call upon? You’ve landed at a good place to make some.)

  The forums are a great place to find help--especially because an online ask is easier than a face-to-face ask! Have you spent some time over there yet? Ladies are already asking each other for all sorts of things--for prayer and for budgeting advice, for blog critiques and button swaps, for promotional help and scheduling tips. So much help is available.  

 What do you need us to help you with? Ask us. 

  You need help from people who’ve been there, too. You need a mentor--or better yet, several of them. If you have a mentoring relationship in place, awesome. (Remember to utilize it: your mentor wants to help you.) If you don’t have a mentor yet (and you’re not alone--most of you don’t), think about who you’d like to mentor you. Then, you’ll need to ask. Yes, asking is awkward but it’s so very worth it in the long run. Getting a mentor in your life is well worth one uncomfortable conversation. 

Maybe you’re not even sure what kind of help you need, or from whom--maybe you know so little you don’t even know what you don’t know! Sister, we’ve all been there. This is a safe place to learn, to grow, to interact, and to figure all this stuff out. And when you figure out what it is you need, ask us. We’re here to help.

Anne Bogel loves strong coffee, long books, and big ideas. She puts a timely spin on timeless women’s issues at her blog Modern Mrs Darcy.

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